you can clean a TB without resetting it mate, even if its working normally.... I did it myself and had no problems. If you are right with your diagnosis, a clean working, but unaligned TB will be a vast improvement over a dirty sticking TB, which undoubtedly will need alignment anyway. Just get it done!
Even if your DV is knackered and is sticking one way or the other, I cant see any situation where enough pressure can build up in your TIP to force it out, unless you block off the end where your filter sits and create huge turbo stall which is obviously never going to happen. Think about it - pressure in there will act in all directions and take the easiest exit - the top of the TIP through your air filter, not pushing your DV out of its spot!
Even if your DV is knackered and is sticking one way or the other, I cant see any situation where enough pressure can build up in your TIP to force it out, unless you block off the end where your filter sits and create huge turbo stall which is obviously never going to happen. Think about it - pressure in there will act in all directions and take the easiest exit - the top of the TIP through your air filter, not pushing your DV out of its spot!