I'm literally doing this at the moment - I'm documenting it in the readers ride section on here.
DQ250 upgrade isn't hard if you can get the parts together. You can also add in the VAQ differential then if you get a gearbox from a Cupra or GTI with Performance Pack.
I've put a Cupra engine in my FR so slightly different, but I've left the full stock FR 1.8TSI loom installed, and added into it.
You're pretty much bang on with what you'll need:
different flywheel- YES
DSG gearbox - YES
drive-shafts(??) - YES
starter motor mated to the chosen gearbox - Yes
shifter cable(?) - No the shifter can stay stock, I just had to change the end connector on it (2 minute job).
mechatronic connector - Yes, easily available online with pins.
DSG coolant lines - YES
Coding - YES - if you don't bother with the VAQ differential, then the
coding is simple, there's a byte somewhere that says 6 speed box installed or 7 speed. Think it may have been for the Instruments. I'll be able to confirm this all if you do decide to do this.
You also need the DSG engine mount (ideally) as it has 3 bolts holding onto the box rather than 2 from the DQ200. The DQ200 mount will fit but won't be as strong with only 2 bolts. Not sure how much of a real world
problem this really is.
The wiring is easy, there are 9 pins on both DQ200 and DQ250, so the connector just needs swapping and re-pinning.
If you get a DSG box from an MQB car, rather than an older DQ250, they have an immobiliser, so you'll need to get it de-immobilised. This can be done but as the Mechatronics is in the gearbox you'd have to either take the mechatronics out and send it somewhere, or get someone to come to you and do it directly through the DQ250 connector.
DQ200 is the worst bit about the 1.8TSI, so if you can upgrade to the DQ250, then defo go IS38. The 1.8TSI motor is very good, and can easily make over 370BHP with bolt on parts. Look at Polo GTI tuning as they use the same 1.8 TSI EA888.3 motors.