I will go for uniform 225/40/R18. However, many friends of mine are using 225 with 7.5J for the front wheels and 245 with 8.5J for the rear wheels. Many say that the difference helps the undrsteer not to be so present. I prefer to play only with the ET, I said I'll go for 35, instead of 51 (OEM). Usually, the tyre dimension must be found in the car's documents, so be careful and do not risk too much. (like it was stated above with the insurance etc.)
I think ET35 will stick out too much. I believe ET45 is the limit.