Hi russ_08:
With the amp you shouldn't connect the negative cable directly to the battery, you should find an earthing terminal inside the car somewhere and use that.
Check the RCA adapter connections and make sure all the wires are touching correctly etc. Use bullet connectors for a better connection. In theory the 12v socket you connected to should turn on the amp. Have you checked to make sure the socket is definitely a switched live and not permanent?
If you don't have any luck you can get another RCA to speaker wire adapter that will have a blue remote line on it, you just need to tap into the pos and neg of the head unit wiring loom and connect to the yellow and black on the RCA adapter which will then provide the remote line.
If you need any more
help let me know.