@devJORD this post helped a lot, I got this working using Car Scanner Pro through the Carista
OBD dongle.
the process is very much the same, in Car Scanner Pro you go into
Coding & Service > MQB platform (if asked).
Choose Lighting Adaptations from the list, work through that list, any that have Coming Home/Leaving Home active listed under a function, click it, change it to Interior Light and jobs a good un! If you see Coming Home/Leaving Home listed under two functions, I just changed the first instance.