seems a shame to get a nice car then not enjoy it.
However you are right that there are some things you can do / not do to treat it well:
1, take it easy for first part of any journey, let the car warm up, when the coolant temp is at 90 remember that the oil hasnt warmed up as fast.
2, for the last few miles of a journey take it easy to avoid parking up with a red hot turbo or baked engine. (some people sit their letting the car run, but why rag it somewhere to get there 60 seconds quicker if you then have to sit there for 3mins).
3,
use decent oil. you generally get what you pay for, synthetic oils are not all the same, legally brands can use mineral oil, carry out some sort of treatment to it and call these synthetic oils.
4, check / change oil regularly.
5, dont rag it to the red line all the time, in fact the 1.8T is often quicker changing up a gear well before the red line.
6, dont let the engine labour at very low revs. Its not a good idea to put your foot down or go up steep hills in a high gear at low revs. So dont be lazy drop down a gear.
7, (important this one for a number of reasons). Anticipate the road. You can significantly change how you use the engine, gears/clutch, brakes, suspension and most things on the car simply by changing driving habits. This also leads to better mpg.
imagine each time you brake you are spending money.
